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What sets Say It Out Loud, How to Have Honest Conversations Between Parents and Grandparents apart from other books is its dual perspective that reveals hidden feelings from both sides, guiding families through the ongoing struggle between generations, and opening the door to understanding, healing, and more harmonious family relationships.

Say It Out Loud written by Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg The Grandparent Village

Say It Out Loud

How to Have Honest Conversations Between Parents and Grandparents

The go-to guide for improving communication and connection between parents and grandparents

From the thrilling moment a baby is born, family roles shift dramatically. While new parents and grandparents alike have the best of intentions, these intergenerational relationships can be emotionally charged and tricky. Things left unsaid can create distance, tensions, and misunderstanding. It's important to navigate these complex dynamics with love, openness, and empathy. But how?

In Say It Out Loud, How to Have Honest Conversations Between Parents and Grandparents, Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg help families communicate productively, leading to deeper understanding, collaboration, and connection between generations. They tackle the most relevant issues facing both generations today-including holidays, screen time, favoritism, discipline, changing roles, in-laws, religion, and estrangement-and provide concrete tools and exercises for each generation to practice and implement within their own family.

Filled with perspectives from parents and grandparents, key concepts, and expert insight, Say It Out Loud offers invaluable guidance for supporting loved ones respectfully and compassionately without overstepping. And when communication is open between generations, it sets an example for young grandchildren that can have a positive impact for years to come.

Book Release February 4, 2027

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  • Say It Out Loud is a comprehensive roadmap

    "Communication is the pillar of successful relationships. Say It Out Loud is a comprehensive roadmap to building and maintaining some of the most important relationships in your village. A must read!"

    —Eve Rodsky, JD, best-selling author of Fair Play and founder of the Fair Play Policy Institute

  • Practical, honest, and deeply empathetic

    “Say It Out Loud is the handbook every grandparent needs. Siegel and Zinberg tackle the real friction points — food battles, screen time, unsolicited advice, in-law dynamics — with warmth, wisdom, and candid real-life stories that feel instantly familiar. Practical, honest, and deeply empathetic, this book shows both generations how to truly hear each other.”

     —Christine Crosby, GRAND Magazine, founder/editorial director.

  • With this book, everybody wins.

    Pam and Leslie take the awkward, emotionally-charged tension out of an age-old challenge: the way generations differ in how they raise, support and engage with children. Rooted in love and logic, Say It Out Loud is a practical guide that provides comforting guardrails for the sticky conversations that arise with the people we love most. With this book, everybody wins.

    —Richelle Fredson, Book Coach, Creative Development Expert, and author of DO THE THING.

  • Say It Out Loud is a thoughtful and compassionate guide...

    As a pediatrician, I see how important—and helpful—it is for families to have support, especially from grandparents. But these relationships can also come with challenges behind the scenes. This book is a thoughtful, compassionate guide to navigating one of the most common—and often unspoken—sources of stress in families: the relationship between parents and grandparents. It’s practical, relatable, and deeply validating. Rather than simply highlighting the challenges, it gives families the language and tools to move forward with understanding, respect, and connection. A valuable resource for any family hoping to strengthen these important relationships.

    — Jessica Hochman, MD, Pediatrician and Host of Your Child Is Normal

  • This book is truly transformative

    “This book is truly transformative. It helps parents and grandparents better understand one another with greater empathy and compassion, creating stronger, more peaceful family relationships. By recognizing the challenges that come with each stage of life, families can communicate more effectively, improve emotional well-being, and create a healthier environment for everyone—especially the children.“ 

    Jaime Bronstein, LCSW, Dating and Relationship Coach/Therapist, named "The #1 Relationship Coach Transforming Lives"- Yahoo

  • Therapist, grandparent advocates, and grandmothers themselves

    “Say It Out Loud tackles one of family life's most universal tensions: the push and pull between parents and grandparents. With warmth, humor, and clinical insight, Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg — therapist, grandparent advocates, and grandmothers themselves — offer a practical roadmap for the conversations families tend to avoid. From sugar battles in grandma's kitchen to deeper rifts around discipline, divorce, and estrangement, this book gives both generations the language and tools they need to finally say what they mean — without blowing up the family group chat."  

    —Erin Schlozman, Author of The Myth of the Perfect Mom, Therapist and Founder of @4th.Trimester. Wellness

  • This book is a breath of fresh air for any parent...

    “This book is a breath of fresh air for any parent. Say It Out Loud reminds us that beneath the awkward moments is a lot of love, and it gives us the gentle tools to bring that love forward. It’s the kindest guide to building a bridge instead of a wall.”

    —Dalit Branch, Mom of 2, Creative Producer & Founder of The Gold Horse,  Creative Production Company

  • Who doesn't want another shot at childhood?

    “Grandparenting can be one of life's greatest joys—and one of its greatest sources of misunderstanding. In Say It Out Loud, Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg tackle the difficult conversations that many families avoid, offering wisdom, humor, and practical guidance for navigating the inevitable tensions between parents and grandparents. Their balanced approach honors the needs and perspectives of both generations while keeping the well-being of children at the center. This is a compassionate, insightful, and highly useful book that deserves a place in every family's home.”

    —Dr. Joshua Coleman, psychologist and author of Rules of Estrangement and When Parents Hurt

Grandparenting Renew Relive Rejoice written by Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg The Grandparent Village
Grandparenting Renew Relive Rejoice written by Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg The Grandparent Village

Grandparenting

Renew, Relive, Rejoice

52 Ways to Mindfully Connect and Grow with Your Grandkids

Who doesn’t want another shot at childhood? The key to opening that door is your grandchildren.

Co-authors Siegel and Zinberg provide a concise, down-to-earth guide for both grandparents and parents. Each of the 52 straight forward nourishing practices provide methods of mindfulness, along with endearing real-life stories that grandparents can identify with. These bite-sized stories offer a rich assortment of simple ways to be present in our fast-paced lives and not miss the richness of time spent with grandchildren.

A mindfulness-based guide offering 52 simple, accessible practices for grandparents to build deeper connection with their grandchildren — no meditation experience required. Rather than treating grandparenting as a diminished or secondary role, the book reframes it as a season of personal renewal, inviting grandparents to be more present, rediscover joy in everyday moments, and grow alongside their grandchildren as they change through each stage of life. It's as much about the grandparent's own wellbeing as it is about the relationship itself — the idea being that a more mindful, renewed grandparent is a more connected one.

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  • Grandparenting: Renew, Relive, Rejoice is a wonderful reminder of how profound becoming a grannie or pop is.

    “Grandparenting: Renew, Relive, Rejoice is a wonderful reminder of how profound, life-changing, and fun becoming a grannie or pop is. Reading about the experiences of Glamm, Popo, Nona, Grammy, Bubbie, etc. - along with helpful hints and advice-is a lovely way to learn about and deepen the pleasure of being with our grandchildren.”

    —Lesley Stahl, 60 Minutes, Author of Becoming Grandma

  • Learn about your grandkids, and yourself.

    “The interesting thing about Grandparenting: Renew, Relive, Rejoice is not only that you learn a lot about your grandkids, but also, you learn a lot about yourself.”

    —Bob Newhart, Comedian

  • Becoming a grandmother has exceeded my wildest expectations.

    “Becoming a grandmother (they call me Sassy) has exceeded, and then some, my wildest expectations. I love what this book offers. It is an incredible resource for anyone embarking on the grandparent journey.”

    —Susan K. Feldman, Founder Get In The Groove, Co-founder One Kings Lane

  • Walking through the pages with our grandchildren is a mutually beneficial journey...

    “Walking through the pages with our grandchildren is a mutually beneficial journey as we encourage the conversation, contemplation and examination of the thoughts, feelings, and wisdom that is shared so clearly, thoughtfully, and beautifully is this book. I, for one, rejoice in the gift of its publication!”

    —Reveta Bowers, President, Common Sense Media National Board; Retired Head of School, The Center for Early Education

  • This book elevates the grandparent-grandchild relationship.

    “A must read. You will never be more amazed as to how truly the old adage ‘stop and smell the roses’ applies. This book offers real-life activities with an understanding of how mindfulness elevates the cherished grandparent-grandchild relationship. you will definitely want to start practicing a more mindful approach to grandparenting.

    —Kay Ziplow, Co-founder Grandparentslink.com

  • This book is filled with pearls of grandparenting wisdom.

    “Offers just the right size bites for any nana, grandpa, grammies or papa. Whether to enhance your connections with your grandchildren, or to share the complexities of your role, this book by Siegel and Zinberg is filled with pearls of grandparenting wisdom.”

    —Betsy Brown Braun, Child Development and Behavior Specialist, Author of Just Tell Me What to Say and You’re Not the Boss of Me.

  • A gift to all grandparents and to their grandchildren.

    “A gift to all grandparents…and to their grandchildren. It is smart, accessible, and really teaches us what mindfulness is in a practical way, full of useful ideas on how to make the most of the precious time we have with the grandchildren we love so much. I loved every page. I’m buying one for all of my friends who are grandparents.”

    —Marlene Canter, Former LAUSD School Board President, Chaplin, Educator, Parent, Grandparent

  • Inspirational, thought-provoking, and a joy to read.

    “For any grandparent interested in deepening their relationship with their grandchildren, this book delivers. Inspirational, thought-provoking, and a joy to read.”

    —Susan Stiffelman, MFT, Author of Parenting Without Power Struggles and Parenting with Presence

  • Leave a legacy. Make this book the cornerstone of your grandparent tool box.

    “Grandparents are known for the many (sometimes too many) gifts that they lavish upon their grandkids. Most are gone and forgotten quickly. What if there was one gift you could give to yourself and your grandkids that would serve you both for the rest of your lives and provide a lasting bond? This book provides a path to the practice of mindfulness and opens the reader to a life well lived from the inside out. If you truly want to leave a legacy, make this book the cornerstone of your grandparent toolbox.”

    —Christine Crosby, Editorial Director GRAND Magazine

  • This book sets the stage for a new way to focus in all aspects of daily life.

    “A wonderful book! Siegel and Zinberg offer readers tools to savor precious moments spent with grandkids. As we learn to pay attention, without judgment, this book sets the stage for a new way to focus in all aspects of daily life. As a pediatrician of 42 years, and the grandfather of nine small grandchildren, this book has enhanced the joy I feel as a more focused, less judgmental grandfather.”

    —Andrew M. Matthew, MD, FAAP

  • This book is a MUST READ for every grandparent.

    “Kudos to Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg; these two authors used mindfulness as an important way to connect with children and teens. They emphasized the fact that, regardless of age, we all have the ability to grow with our grandchildren. This book is filled with sage advice, fabulous quotes, whimsical colorful drawings, and meaningful self-disclosure. There are numerous anecdotes that facilitate the reader capturing every point along the way. This book is a MUST READ for every grandparent who will be so happy to experience the support and the caring of two exceptional authors.”

    —Barbara K.Pollan, PhD, LMFT, Professor Emeritus, California State University, Northridge, Child and Adolescent Development, Psychotherapist and Speaker, Author of No Directions on the Package, Questions and Answers for Parents with Children from Birth to Age 12 and We Can Work It Out - Conflict Resolution for Children

“I’m so impressed with the presentation of ‘both sides’ in Say It Out Loud.’ As a parent, you captured our real struggles and simultaneously, I am so much more empathetic to our Grands hearing their perspectives.”

Claire.B | Parent & Daughter

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The Grandparent Village is the trusted home for grandparents and the families who love them.

Created by authors and family experts, Pam Siegel and Leslie Zinberg. Grounded in the belief that "every family needs a village," offering practical tools, honest conversation starters, and real-life stories to help strengthen the bond between grandparents, adult children, and grandkids alike.

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As two dynamic, ready-for-anything grandmas, we share our wealth of personal experience and enthusiasm. We’ve teamed up to create a space where grandparenting is cool, current, and completely in sync with today’s vital, engaged grandparents. We’re here to elevate your grandparenting game and make it as fun, fulfilling, and fabulous as you are!